Do(ing) it Like a Feminist

Post-Grad Girl living in a Post-Grad World.

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Moving Past the Funk: Living in a Post-Election World

Like many people, I’ve been in mourning. I actually found myself googling how to immigrate to Canada the night of the Election. Granted, I didn’t make it past the screen showing that the site crashed, but I still wondered how I would be able to do it. Then I thought more about what a Trump Presidency would look like and wondered, what would it look like for me to abandon my place in this country and lose my will to fight? If I were a child, I wouldn’t want my elders to do that to me, so I can’t give up now.

To this day, I can not fathom how people could vote for Trump. You say he is anti-establishment; we say he is a racist demagogue. You say he is a great businessman; we say he has gone bankrupt a handful of times and has only looked out for himself. I can go on and on about this, but there is no point. The only points left to make are what is going to happen next. How can we teach our peers and young folk about what it means to be an advocate for the issues at hand?

And here is where you can get your crash course.


Harro, page 16

In Bobbie Harro’s “The Cycle of Socialization”, she discusses how we are socialized from birth/toddler into a way of thinking. We are taught biases and stereotypes, and we live with these mechanics as we grow up. We are then socialized on a personal level from parents, loved ones, and teachers (that’s why they are so important). These mechanics are then reinforced through various institutions such as church, TV, and in our culture. When these mechanics are reinforced, they result in anger, discrimination, and ignorance. It’s up to you to figure out which direction you want to go- do you want to continue reinforcing the same cycle, or would you want to head in a direction for change?

For those who says white privilege doesn’t exist, I want you to look at the events that have occurred since the election: swastikas being spray-painted on walls, a woman in Brooklyn was punched by a male trump supporter at a restaurant in Brooklyn, a woman pulled another woman’s hijab off in a Walmart in the name of Trump, and the list goes on and on. In Peggy McIntosh’s “White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack”, she states:

“My culture gives me little fear about ignoring the perspectives and powers of people of other races.” (McIntosh, 2)

As a woman of color, I will never be able to have this privilege. From what I’ve observed about the country post-Election is that many people who have this privilege don’t (or won’t) understand the power their actions have with people of color, and they don’t worry about the consequences of their actions, because most likely, they won’t be reprimanded for it. Is this what we want to teach our future children and voters?

For all you Trump supporters, I hope you realize what your future will look like. Only a week has passed and there is already a white supremacist in a position of power. You did this. Take responsibility for it. Once Donald Trump takes his place in the White House, I can only predict the decline of our Country, economically and socially. You can sit back and say that he will fix our broken “system”, but he will continue to display divisive and demeaning behavior toward people of color, the LGBTQIA community, Muslims, immigrants, etc..

Or maybe that’s what you all really want, which is much scarier to think about.

For those of you who are willing to fight forward, find your local community programs. Volunteer. Protest. Write to your local politicians. We will not be swayed. I am with you all.


Harro, Bobbie. “The Cycle of Socialzation.” Readings for Diversity and Social Justice. N.p.: Routledge, 2007. 15-21. Print.

McIntosh, Peggy. “White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack.” N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Nov. 2016.


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The Blessings in Disguise

My fellow bloggers! Today has been a wonderful day full of love, compassion, and understanding which has led to inspiration.

These past few months I have been getting much closer with certain people in my family and it has led me to really think about myself and what my future holds for me. When people ask me what I want to do with my life post-grad, I usually say the same things that associate with things I’ve done in college: feminism and media work, student affairs, feminist activism online, etc. but my life after college has done nothing related to that. Granted, I’ve maintained my presence online, but I’m talking on a larger scale.

Then, I think about what I’m doing while offline: spending time with my family, helping my brother with homework, giving my cousins advice on life, love, and menstruation, having adult conversations with my friends, supporting my older cousins with their new endeavors, etc… What I just came to realize is the blessings that have been placed right before my eyes which made me think about my independent study during college: teaching young people about the things that they may not get from their parents or guardians.

I titled this blog Do(ing) it like a Feminist because I believe that everything I do is feminist. Feminism is who I am and it’s the language I speak. When I’m spending time with my younger siblings/cousins, I’m having honest dialogue about growing up and reminding them to always ask questions because I never really had someone to do that for me as a kid.

Sometimes we don’t see the blessings right before our eyes, so once in a while, it’s good to step back and understand a new perspective.

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The Best Things of 2012

I’ve been inspired to write about the type of year I’ve had today. I’m not one to count down the best and worst things of this year, but this is an exceptional year for so many reasons. There are so many things to be thankful for so I want to highlight a few of them here.

1. Being the first person in my immediate family to graduate from college.

(Thank you to Eppy Suarez for taking amazing pictures)

2. Being a badass Feminist Activist

Vagina Monologues 2012

Meeting Robyn Ochs

CLPP Conference at Hampshire College

Bringing Jenn Pozner to HWS

Slutwalk Geneva

(There is more but I have to keep it moving)

3. Making amazing new friends and building feminist community

Have to end it with these two lovely ladies, my advisors and academic parents of HWS.

(There are tons more but that could take the whole feed)

4. Re-connecting with family near and far

5. Finding an amazing man-partner who supports my choices and shares my views on the world.

Honorable mention: MY SEEDLINGS! I can not forget them ❤

It has been a great year for me, and life can only get better.

Cheers to you 2012, you were fantastic!


Not Your Average ‘I Love the 90s’ Post

Hello Bloggers,

In between looking for a job, I entered this time capsule that took me back to the 90’s. Last week, I started watching one of my favorite 90’s shows Ghostwriter that took place in Fort Greene, Brooklyn from ’92-’95.

He’s a ghost and he writes to us

To give you a brief synopsis of the show, there is a ghost who writes to six kids called Ghostwriter, and he helps them solve cases in their community. This kids show aired on PBS and Nickelodeon, and was meant to teach kids how to write better in school. Now, as an adult, I’ve found myself re-watching all the episodes (all 74 to be exact) on Youtube. As I went through the episodes, it hit me that this is not your average show, 90’s or not. This show’s cast was rich in diversity, ethnicity, and language. What really stuck out to me was the social activism these cases led to.

In the “Over the Barrel” case, the team was trying to find out who put toxic waste in their community garden. This led them to finding the owner of a moving company who was receiving an award for being a great citizen (which he was NOT). They staged a rally and protest at the event and even had a camera crew come for him to claim responsibility for his actions. After watching this episode, I sat in bed thinking about how amazing this was, even if I didn’t understand it as much back in the 90’s.

Here is my point: There were so many shows that were aimed at diversity in the 90’s such as Ghostwriter, The Puzzle Place,  and Arthur (even though that still exists), just to name a few.

I mean look at that description of the show

This is a different kind of diversity

I thought about this connects to my upbringing- I was never one of those kids who thought differently of someone who was from a different culture, and as I thought about the shows I used to watch as a kid, it may be one of the reasons why. I watched so many shows that highlighted diversity and praised each character in different episodes. As for Ghostwriter, the social activism in this show may resonate with me now because of what I studied in college and how much of an activist I am.

These were some of the greatest shows I watched in the 90’s, but there are so many more that were amazing as well. Can you name a few?


How to Prevent Entering the ‘Post-Grad Despair’

Hello Bloggers,

I’m pretty sure some of you are having the same feelings as me when it comes to life as a post-graduate. The job market is limited and they are only looking for people with certain degree requirements or with experience, which leaves you feeling lost and confused (I know I am).

Our economy is currently in a turnaround and jobs are increasing, but it seems to be getting harder and harder to obtain one. Because of this, students who graduate from college sometimes  enter this “post-grad despair” because their feelings of hope turn into rejections once they enter the real world. Speaking from experience, this feeling is not a good one, and it often leaves you questioning your credibility, but I am here to tell you not to give up! You have to keep the search alive and stay motivated to pursue what you want. Sometimes we have to start from the ground up to gain experience, so start looking into internships in your specific field because it could lead to a job. If it doesn’t, keep looking. Volunteer your time. Keep yourself busy if you can.

I wrote a post about building a strong feminist community, and this is where the community comes into play. They support you and keep you grounded. Whenever you are feeling down or upset, stay connected with your community because they will help you, and also keep the search alive when you can’t do it yourself. Find your feminist community and stay connected, no matter how near or far you are to each other.

I know it’s easy to say these things but hard to get it done, but you have to remember that you are not alone. We are all struggling, but the important thing is to not lose hope. Something is out there, we just need to find it. For now, we have to start from the ground up.

Good luck, and keep on fighting for what you want.